Divorce is NEVER The End…
6 years ago… After my divorce, if you asked me where I’d be right now, I’d never in a million years say HERE.
but on that note, it’s also time for more change.
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1) My 3 Beautiful Children |
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2 ) The Woman/Parent I Have Become |
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3) My Amazing New Husband |
If you’re divorced with kids, you might still be battling the guilt that goes with being divorced. But, I want to let you know, you shouldn’t let it eat you alive.
First of all, it’s already done, and you can’t go back and change things.
Secondly, according to a piece written by Mary Parke regarding a research study done by CLASP (Center for Law and Social Policy), it’s possible that the quality of the parent’s relationship can be more significant in your children’s life, than divorce.
Even though I’ve always thought this was true, (hence why I left my ‘X’) it’s one of those things most people like to see in writing before they believe it…
This is what I’ve always thought:
“How could it be better for a kid (or kids) to deal with horrible repeat fights, constant underlying stress and the discord between two parents, over a divorce?” I just could never believe it was, and I worried that my children would grow up witnessing our continued mistakes then go out and repeat them…
Here’s the article:
Doesn’t the Quality of the Relationship Matter More Than the Piece of Paper?
In my own personal case, I know that this time around in my second marriage, my children see two adults dealing with our disagreements better. We are not perfect, but we do handle our disagreements better and communicate more successfully than my first husband and I did. Although I did feel very guilty after my divorce because I really thought I might be messing up my kids, I have learned that they are witnessing a much healthier relationship, and will benefit from this today, and always. Hopefully, I will help them break the cycle. (That was the goal.)
Since I’ve been out of the office (and frankly it seems I’ve been out of my own body and mind as well) for a week, some posts have become M.I.A.
Here’s this past Monday’s post: There are 3 Types of Divorcees